Wow...

So after about 2 days of talking to my dear husband about his exercising, and compromising on how we were going to do this, we finally came to a conclusion. And I must say, I laughed. William has obviously been talking to what I like to call his 'psychiatrist'. This guy is around 35, just recently joined, but is incredibly insightful. I'm glad William has some one like that he can go to to talk to whenever he needs to. On the other hand I'm kind of jealous. Although today, the psych has bailed William out of a sticky situation. So I asked William to walk up and give him a hug and tell him thank you for me. I have met this guy before, he is an odd one. Has a personality pretty much like William. Lol, now that I think about it, I have no idea what attracted me to William in the first place if I think this guy is so odd.

Well anyways, obviously they have been talking because William sent me an email stating that his friend says that women also need time away from the kids and family and they also need some time off and that William still isn't thinking like a married man. DUH!! After William and I had gotten married, and we were sitting at my mom's house one day before we moved up here, I was talking to my mom about some problems we were having. She mentioned to us that he wasn't thinking like a married man should. I had already told him that before when he was in Oki but then it didn't matter because we were living separately, he didn't really have to other than don't cheat.

So how is William NOT thinking like a married man? Well, he is a little selfish. He goes and does his hobbies and expects me to be ok with it. And I am ok with him having A hobby. I need an outlet too so I understand if he needs something to get away every once and a while. But he expects to spend whatever he wants on it, and do basically whatever he wants with it and I can't tell him what to do about it. But he can totally tell me what to do. I'm not allowed to go to college, when he is here, I'm not allowed to drive the car, dinner is to be made by 6 PM, I just have all these rules, yet he has none. So now he wants to start working out. Which again, I have no problem with. But I want a compromise. And our compromise is, I am going to start yoga. He agreed to it, we worked it out so we are both happy with that. And he is even happy with me going to college now.... yeah now that he knows he doesn't have to pay for it. His psych's wife goes with pell grants, and I even told William about the MyCAA program the military offers to military spouses to get an education.

So when you get down to it, he didn't want me to get an education because he didn't want to pay for it. As long as it doesn't inconvenience him, he is ok with it. In his last email he acknowledged that he isn't thinking like a married man and acknowledged that he needed help getting there. I just wonder if this is the start of a bunch of new problems or the start of a new beginning...