Arguing

So every couple argues. Whether you are married, engaged, or just dating, it's just the human condition, we all have different opinions. I find myself arguing with many of my 'girl' friends. Well, William and I argue... a lot. Not necessarily the big blow outs where it takes 2 days to get over, just the small petty things. I have always been told, it's not what you argue about, it's how you argue. And some one else told me, don't sweat the small stuff. Well, in this house, we always sweat the small stuff. And we have a terrible communication problem. We came home with a guinea pig that neither one of us wanted but didn't say anything about because we didn't want to hurt each other's feelings. The guinea pig conversation at Petco was a lot like, 'Yes William we can get her if you want her.' and William would say, 'No sweetie we can get her if you want her.'... but inside we were secretly wishing he/she would speak up and say 'NO PLEASE DON'T GET THE PIG!!'

So why am I talking about us arguing? Because I'm tired of it. He knows it, I talk to him about it all the time. We together talk about it all the time. We just don't know how to fix it. We don't even know how to fix our communication problem. We walked around the NEX for 2 hours the other day because again, we thought that's what the other person wanted to do. He said he was following me and I said I was following him. I'm too prideful to see a marriage councilor. I don't think we need that much help. But at the same time, I'm scared if we don't, in the long run our marriage will fail. And being a child surrounded by failed marriages... I don't want to be another statistic. And we definatly sweat the small stuff. He and I both get so frustrated over the small stuff. Well, me more than him. I'm a perfectionist, and he... isn't. So if the dishwasher isn't loaded right, or if Noah's clothes don't match... you got it... and he says I over react. Which yes I do. And we occasionally laugh over the argument because most of the time they are stupid and petty and worth laughing over.